Themba Limba is very concerned with being a man. Yet he has warped ideas of what being a man means. Warped, yes, but typical of a man who does not examine or acknowledge his male privilege. He believes he should always get his own way with women and he should always have power over women. According to Themba, “a man who is outwitted by a woman not only dishonours himself, but also denigrates the dignity of manhood.” He announces in the first paragraph that that he “betrayed the very manhood that he worked for so diligently” by crying. When a Man Cries is the story of Themba learning what real manhood is all about.